Stupid step dad

My step dad gets pissed at the smallest things, i mean really pissed, like when i forget to pick my towel up off the floor in the morning or not getting up right away in the morning, just the stupidest little things, i want to tell him to go screw himself, but that could possibly end with me going to jdc or maybe even jail with what would happen after that (cause id kick his fricken arse after he came after me - 47 years old, kinda slow, 200 lbs or so), and i turn 18 and graduate in about 5 months, and cant really afford to move out right away, anyone have any ideas as to what i could possibly do?

military, it's what i'm doing. i'm applying to the rotp (regular officer training plan) in canada, they pay for your university, books, and give you $1200+ per month for food and housing, then you do some time in the military as an officer.

other than that, get a good job so that you can pay for housing and food, or try to convince your parents to pay for it. my parents agreed to pay for one of my expenses, either they'd cover housing or my car (as in insurance, gas, maintenance, and repairs, they already bought the car).

Army ahhhh thats your choice. I'd go away to college for a few years. It will teach you to be on your own and help you grow up to be less dependant. Also you will get a great education hopefully so you can land a good job when you graduate to be completely independant of your parents. Thats the route I took and I couldnt be happier. Can you sit down and talk to your step father/mother about his behavior? That seems logical, aproach the situation like an adult and hopefully you will be treated the same in return.

Can't do military because of the adhd crap that i dont really have but i guess my doctor says i do, i may have add but not adhd, im waiting to get back in so she can sign that im off the meds and then i have to wait at least a year before i can join, im looking at taking auto tech next year and im gonna ask my mom about helping me out with that and my car or housing, but im paying for every thing with my car and they already said they wouldnt help with that tany more, but im gonna talk a little more about it, ive been having these problems wit my step dad for a while, and my mom knows and has been trying to help, i just think if i say anything to him, it will wind up with me going to jdc and/or one of us hurt, im just gettin tired of my parents treatin me like im 8, not 17, cause i cant do crap
thanks
edit: one reason my parents wont hep with a car is because i want a 240sx, they dont like that car (or almost any car for me) for some reason

Whats JDC?

well as a first car you can't really complain about what it is, especially if they're paying for it. if that's the only thing stopping you from getting a car then just find a different one, a honda accord is a great first car. you might not think it is, sure it's not the fastest thing or the best handling, but it's got tonnes of space, great fuel economy, it's comfortable, and most of all it's reliable. you're going to college buddy, you don't want your car breaking and crap because you cant afford to fix every little thing. besides, although it might be a boring car, it's still a great car to ride in, and it's got a great back seat.

Honda Accord

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Whats JDC?Its short for Juvenial Detention Center, Jail for minors basicly. I guess iIm not sure what its called in other states

Beef_burito: One problem, they said my last car was the only one thed pay for, my first one, a 90 grand am, i got for free, had a lot of problems, and i rolled that a few months later, the one i have now, a 90 buick century has so many problems i payed $400 and so did my parents (totaling $800), is about ready to go, i just paid a speeding ticket and i have insurance (surprisingly cheap, about $450) coming up in a month so im a little strapped for cash right now, i pay my own insurance, maintenance, gas, etc. i get virtually no financial help from my parents, when i got to college next year, i wont qualify for financial aid because they make way to much, i wont get many scholarships because of my gpa, so im gonna have to take out loans, so im pretty well screwed financially, but im going to talk to my mom soon, but im working so much latley that i dont get a chance, shes sleeping buy the time i get home at 11, and yea

PS: i acctually don't mind the accords, a friend has 3, a 90, 93 and a 03, the 90 has almost 300k on it and nothin mojor has gone wrong with it, not to slow either for a 4 banger i dont think, it will keep up with my v6 thats probly pushin 170-180 hp, plus the mpg is kinda what im lookin for because i drive 18 miles to work

Can't do military because of the adhd crap that i dont really have but i guess my doctor says i do, i may have add but not adhd, im waiting to get back in so she can sign that im off the meds and then i have to wait at least a year before i can join, im looking at taking auto tech next year and im gonna ask my mom about helping me out with that and my car or housing, but im paying for every thing with my car and they already said they wouldnt help with that tany more, but im gonna talk a little more about it, ive been having these problems wit my step dad for a while, and my mom knows and has been trying to help, i just think if i say anything to him, it will wind up with me going to jdc and/or one of us hurt, im just gettin tired of my parents treatin me like im 8, not 17, cause i cant do crap
thanks
edit: one reason my parents wont hep with a car is because i want a 240sx, they dont like that car (or almost any car for me) for some reason

Thats bullshit, ADHD isn't a factor anymore as far as Army Recruiting goes....if you really want to join the military don't mention it, and they won't mention it either....they know you have it...you know you have it...it's just understood that they need bodies...now the navy is more picky i know from experience....they don't take anyone with asvab scores below 35....almost too picky...and I was in the same situation...I hated my step dad and still do even after being out of the house for two years...I wanted to break his face every second I was around him but he is the adult and is in charge....I would talk to your mother....and if not talk to your real father if you're still good with him and see if he can talk to your mother and possibly get involved in a civilized non-Jerry Springer manner...

Thats bullshit, ADHD isn't a factor anymore as far as Army Recruiting goes....if you really want to join the military don't mention it, and they won't mention it either....they know you have it...you know you have it...it's just understood that they need bodies...now the navy is more picky i know from experience....they don't take anyone with asvab scores below 35....almost too picky...and I was in the same situation...I hated my step dad and still do even after being out of the house for two years...I wanted to break his face every second I was around him but he is the adult and is in charge....I would talk to your mother....and if not talk to your real father if you're still good with him and see if he can talk to your mother and possibly get involved in a civilized non-Jerry Springer manner... Yea, i got a 69 or something like that on my asvab, and ive been thinking navy, so just dont mention the pills? i thought they checked that out tho, but im not sure, funny to mention my real dad, i just met him for the second time in my life on around the 23 or so, he sopposedly says he isnt because the tests supposedly came negitive, but he was heavily into drugs at the time, i know i wont get any help from him, but i will be talking to my mom soon, hopefully saturday, i wont really see her till then because i work till 10:30 tonie and tomorow, and im in school, but i dont think it will help much because she seems to get pissed at me when we have these discusions, about cars (i really need a new one) and such, she thinks that im suck a bad kid when im not, she has called the cops on me 3 times and almost put me in jdc or had a CHINS petition put on me, all in 2 1/2 years, because i got pissed, thats it, didnt hit any one or anything, but i dont know what will happen yet

the best advice I can give you is patience I guess...and put all that anger and negative energy into something good....start building models or start a project car with a buddy....whenever i'd get pissed i'd go for a quick ride downtown, flip the through the gears a little bit and just avoid making the situation worse....and when you move out and make something of yourself then you can be like "whats up now?!".....as far as the navy goes, it depends on your recruiter...let your recruiter know after he's known you a little bit and if he likes you he will try to get you in...so just give a great impression the first time and show him that there isn't anything you'd rather do that serve your country....if the adhd isn't a problem...and you just had some problems in school then fuck it...who cares....as long as you can aim a weapon or fix something, you've got a skill and are valuable....

the best advice I can give you is patience I guess...and put all that anger and negative energy into something good....start building models or start a project car with a buddy....whenever i'd get pissed i'd go for a quick ride downtown, flip the through the gears a little bit and just avoid making the situation worse....and when you move out and make something of yourself then you can be like "whats up now?!".....as far as the navy goes, it depends on your recruiter...let your recruiter know after he's known you a little bit and if he likes you he will try to get you in...so just give a great impression the first time and show him that there isn't anything you'd rather do that serve your country....if the adhd isn't a problem...and you just had some problems in school then fuck it...who cares....as long as you can aim a weapon or fix something, you've got a skill and are valuable....well, the friend that i was helping with a project car just moved (in fact, 2 of my best friends moved over christmas break, and i dont really have many friends), im not to interested in model cars or video games at the moment because i want to go and do something like work on a car, i want to get my own project so badly, but mom says no, plus, my mom doesnt like me driving becaus ive been in like 5 accidents (2 my fault, i rolled once and side swiped another) but nothin to major, except when i rolled, but if i leave when im pissed, i will get the po-po called like i did the last three times, and i did literally nothing wrong, except raise my voice a little bit, and that was it, im going to talk to my mom on saturday and hope that she gets some of my points, and doesnt get pissed

i'd suggest you start working out or excercising, it'll help you take out the aggression on something constructive and the endorphins should help you feel happier.

Ignore him, you live in their house you have to take their shit. When you have a good enough job or join the military than you can tell him to go screw himself but for now anything you do will make matters worse. Its not fun being tossed out on your own when you aren't ready trust me bro been there.

Do what you gotta do to get away from them, but for now just pick the towel up off the floor, when you're older and get married your wife will be the one yelling at you for that. Not to sound like an ass but just givin it to you straight.

If you really do consider the military as a career, get used to being told what to do. Every minute of your day at least for a few months will be laid out and you will do what you are told. Try leaving a towel laying around the barracks or having a sleep in. :uhoh:

i'd suggest you start working out or excercising, it'll help you take out the aggression on something constructive and the endorphins should help you feel happier.

This is a good idea also holds true w/ exgirlfriends

Ignore him, you live in their house you have to take their shit. When you have a good enough job or join the military than you can tell him to go screw himself but for now anything you do will make matters worse. Its not fun being tossed out on your own when you aren't ready trust me bro been there.

Do what you gotta do to get away from them, but for now just pick the towel up off the floor, when you're older and get married your wife will be the one yelling at you for that. Not to sound like an ass but just givin it to you straight.

If you really do consider the military as a career, get used to being told what to do. Every minute of your day at least for a few months will be laid out and you will do what you are told. Try leaving a towel laying around the barracks or having a sleep in. :uhoh: I don think im going to join the military, but its more than just the towel deal and sleeping till 7:30 when i have school at 8:25, he doesnt listen to me at all even when he asks for my knowledge, i know that if i tell him what i want he will get pissed and probably come at me and it will all start from there, but yea, im gonna talk to my mom tomorow, and start working out and stuff, i just need to get a project i like, but then my step dad will have a problem with that too, he always does, but i'll see what happens after tomorow.
Plus with some of the things like the towel thing, its not intentional, i completley forget about it after i get dressed, i tell him that and he gets even more pissed

Quit whining on a forum and man up.

Hate to sound like a dick, but seriously, your almost 17 and you bitching on the internet about your evil step dad and how they dont want to buy you the car you want. Let em drop cinderella. You sound like a 14 year old girl.

but im paying for every thing with my car and they already said they wouldnt help with that tany more

Yeah? Guess what dude, it only gets worse. You say you want a project car? You want a Nissan to go fast. I was in your position a few years ago, with the same attitude. I was building my car, putting every dime I had in it. Then maturity happened. I havent touched that car in over three months, havent invested in it in about seven. Priorities change.

You got a mean stepdad? Oh damn. Be a man. And yes, yes, we know how manly you are and how you can destroy him. I mean be a man, not a boy with raging hormones. Talk to him. Oh he'll get mad and attack you and you'll beat him up? Not if you do it right. Its funny, when I was 17 I thought I could take my dad (48, kinda slow, not a fighter in the least). Take a swing and get tossed into a water heater, youll shut right up.

This thread is stupid man. Seriously, everyone has family troubles, everyone has money troubles. Get used to it. E-friends cant help. If its so bad sign up for family counseling.

yea, i know every one has family problems, but i dont think its normal when your parents call the cops on you 3 times because you get a little pissed off and want to go for a walk, and your mom says its because she cant control you and because she doesnt want me in her position when she was my age, she was pregnant at 17 and 18, living on her own, im just havin a shit load of problems that have me really stressed (and i mean really stressed) and was askin for some input, and i try talking to my parents, but it doesnt work, i tried talking some today, but i got no where, but i only talked about a new car or a small project car, she got pissed at my thoughts of buying a car with a few problems that i can get for cheap and fix it up, i get no where because they wont listen to what i have to say

Talking about the car once its already been an issue is probably not a good idea. Just going to piss them off more. Forget about it for a while until you can afford it and than do whatever you want. Project cars are nothing but wastes of money at your age, gets more expensive than you think.

and i completely understand why they wouldn't want you to have a car if you've already crashed so many times. don't bring it up because you already know it'll piss them off.

yea, i know it does, but im haveing a ton of problems with my car now and need to get a diferent one or this one is going to turn into a money pit, im looking to stay away from that, i guess with a car, im not looking for an actual project car buy one that has a few minor problems to fix and use, but i dont know for sure

i used to have a buick century, but it was a four cylinder...that thing was suprisingly tough...i would hit everything with that thing, trees, curbs, my brother....it was good times...just wait until you graduate...bite your tongue and just roll with it....do have a job?

Yea, its a decent car, i like the power cause it will keep up with my friends 86 300zx and he has a lot of mods, but its geting 18mpg at 55mph, 15 at normal driving, and has a lot of rust, needs 4 new injectors, halfshafts soon, 6th time, some suspension parts and soon, maybe a new tranny, id rather not put that kind of money into this thing, yes i have a job, i get paid like 6.30 an hour, my mom wont let me quit and get a better job either, i asked her why and she didnt answer, but at least i have one, and with my accidents, only 2 were my fault which were the rollover and i sideswiped some lady, the others werent my fault, rearended a few times,

Yea, its a decent car, i like the power cause it will keep up with my friends 86 300zx and he has a lot of mods, but its geting 18mpg at 55mph, 15 at normal driving, and has a lot of rust, needs 4 new injectors, halfshafts soon, 6th time, some suspension parts and soon, maybe a new tranny, id rather not put that kind of money into this thing, yes i have a job, i get paid like 6.30 an hour, my mom wont let me quit and get a better job either, i asked her why and she didnt answer, but at least i have one, and with my accidents, only 2 were my fault which were the rollover and i sideswiped some lady, the others werent my fault, rearended a few times,

Get a new job and quit your old one when your 18.

And let me get this straight, your 17, and youve already had 2 major accidents that were your fault, and how many that werent? Thats a bad thing dude.

Besides, if you want a car that gets good mileage, and has a few problems you can fix, you shouldnt have a problem finding something for under 1500 bucks. Start saving

Well, im looking at pulling up a second job when i turn 18, and buying a 240 when i turn 18, and possibly moving out within a moth of turning 18, but i moght wait cause i wont have to pay rent, and just never be home, hang out with friends and work as much as possible, then i wont have to put up with the bullshit then, but i probly wont be able to come in later than like 11 or 12, im sure my mom will tell me that because i have a step bro that came in a 3 in the morning 5 years ago, hes about 25 now, i might move in with him for a while, but im not sure yet

Hey man you sound a lot like me, ive been through that exact same stuff. my mom used to call the cops on me EVERY day, dude i got arrested for throwing a grape at her one time. it didnt even hit her. cops are dicks and judges dont care. i got locked up 3 times, one time was for the entire summer and into like october i think. it sucks watching fireworks from a foot wide window when you can look across the parking lot past the barbed wire and shit and see people having fun at the county fair. and no im not trying to brag about how much ive been through, im just saying ive been there. i used to run away and live at my friends apartment and trip all day and all night until i felt like going home or going back to school. i got sent to a bd school even though i ace every test given to me and ive never studied a day in my life. i was in AP and A-level classes. i would get d's in my classes cuz i never did the homework. and then my parents thought it was a good idea to send me to a school where 90% of the classes i took were middle-school level. i was on house arrest, then IPS intensive probation, and now im currently on high risk probation, all of this for breaking into cars in 8th grade. yeah felony burglary i guess even though all i ever took was cigs and twinkies and shit. im gonna be 19 in a week and im on probation until im 21, no matter what. i owe almost 2 grand in restitution because all the dicks in that neighborhood heard about a "string of car robberies" and told the cops that they were missing gold necklaces and shit. my mom had a stroke 2 years ago and cant talk anymore and can only move her left side of her body. so i live with my stepdad now, and me and him get along WAY WAY better now. i guess cuz we both went through some rough shit. i had to pay for my first car, a purlpe 96 ford escort, and thats when i got into cars. that thing pretty much blew up, i guess i dropped a valve seat and it like ate away at everything in my motor. anyways i could tell you my lifes story all day long but the point is you have it pretty good compared to a lot of people. you make your own money, drive your own car, and soon youll be old enough to drive that car to the strip club and drop all your hard earned cash on a lap dance. woo! seriously, though, things will get better, as long as you are proactive about it. nothing will improve if you act all mopey around the house. cheer up, ask your step dad how his day was and stuff, small talk makes all the difference when it comes to asshole parents. talk about stuff you both are interested in if you can. idk what your hobbies are other than cars, i skate and play the gee tar, whatever else you do get better at it. make something of yourself. make fun of hondas. save up money and go on a trip when u graduate high school. this post is probably way too long.

He doesnt like working on cars anymore, we have literally nothing in common, but idk, i think im gonna stay out of the house as much as possible now, and i guess my mom says she'll talk to me tonite