big sister

So, i had a girl over, just a friend, and we were watching tv and it was a little late (12:30). anyways my sister gets home, then eventually pulls me aside and tells me "i think it's inapropriate that you have a girl over with noone in the house at this time of the night. our parents wouldn't appreciate that especially without them knowing. etc etc etc"

so anyways i'm just thinking "who the hell are you to tell me what the hell to do? it's not like you've given me any good advice over the last 6,7,whatever years so why are you all of a sudden trying to run my life? i'm a fucking adult for heavens sake, i can make my own decisions."

the worst part is that i know for a fact that she's been alone with guys at night, she's been alone with her boyfriend at night, who is she to tell me not to. and it's just so annoying how now, when i'm old enough to make my own decisions, i can think for myself, she's really not going to teach me anything, now is the time when she's trying to be my mother. she's just fucking annoying me.

Haha, that sucks! How old are you though?

Send her away to camp for the summer... Starting now. Actually she has helped you more than you know! Tell her she has clearly shown you the type of girl that you will never date let alone ever even consider marrying in a hundred-thousand years. That should leave her with a memory for life.. even with out adding the, no matter how well you...part. Respect the rules of the house.

How old are both of you? Where were your parents?

So, i had a girl over, just a friend, and we were watching tv and it was a little late (12:30). anyways my sister gets home, then eventually pulls me aside and tells me "i think it's inapropriate that you have a girl over with noone in the house at this time of the night. our parents wouldn't appreciate that especially without them knowing. etc etc etc"

so anyways i'm just thinking "who the hell are you to tell me what the hell to do? it's not like you've given me any good advice over the last 6,7,whatever years so why are you all of a sudden trying to run my life? i'm a fucking adult for heavens sake, i can make my own decisions."

the worst part is that i know for a fact that she's been alone with guys at night, she's been alone with her boyfriend at night, who is she to tell me not to. and it's just so annoying how now, when i'm old enough to make my own decisions, i can think for myself, she's really not going to teach me anything, now is the time when she's trying to be my mother. she's just fucking annoying me.
23(sis) 21(me) and she thinks a bad idea leaving me home alone still so you're a head of the game.

dude, dont let her tell you what to do. how can it be inapropriate? two people spending time with each other no matter if they are the same sex is perfectly fine, not to mention you're an adult, and it certainly ISNT her place to decide what is or isnt apropriate to begin with! what does she think? you're going to bang this girl on the couch when she could walk in the door any minute? (even though you probably would have). tell her to fuck off for not trusting you, even though shes most likely doing it just to be a bitch. after what my sister put me through, i consider them a whole different fucking organism. woman can be such impulsive assholes.

i'm 18 and she's 26, our parents were at the trailer (cottage typ trailer, not white trash type trailer) overnight. and about banging on the couch, only if i knew she wasn't coming home, if i was trying to get some i'd probably do it in the car while driving her home, that way i wouldn't get caught.

Meh. She could be on your case just to be a pain or she could be on your case because she feels like its her responsiibility when mom and dad aren't around. Now that doesn't justify her hypocritical stance on what hours of the night you should have company, but still. It could be that she just can't grasp the thought of her lil bro having sex or anything leading up to it. She's 8 years older than you so for most of her life you've been "baby brother", "little brother", or "kid brother". Now that youre 18 you're just "younger brother" and she probably hasn't realized it. So as asshoelish as she may seem its probably not out of bad intent, just misguided protection. :2cents:

that's the problem, most of my fam still thinks of me as the young one, well yes i am the youngest but i'm at a point where they really can't teach me how to live my life anymore. i'll make my own decisions and my own mistakes and they don't see that.

that's the problem, most of my fam still thinks of me as the young one, well yes i am the youngest but i'm at a point where they really can't teach me how to live my life anymore. i'll make my own decisions and my own mistakes and they don't see that.

I see your point but let me explain speaking as a big brother.

You'll most likely always be the youngest (probably no more babies in the future). Therefore you'll always be viewed as "the baby". This was great when you were little and you loved everybody lavishing you with attention, but now you're for the most part a grown ass man and having everybody monitoring you is a pain.

There's not much you can do now to change the baby tag. Not knocking you or anything, but you still live at home (and thats perfectly fine, you're only 18) so in your mom/sister's eyes nothing is different than when you were 8. Until something major changes, they will see things the same way. I'm not sure how you might go about changing their view of you while still living there, I went away to school at 18 so that was the "wake up call" for my mom so she changed the way she deals with me since then. But to be honest, until my little sister went away to school a couple months ago, I still treated her the same way I used to when she lived at home.

BUT let me say that you can always be taught and learn things from your mom, sister, aunt, whoever. I was amazed how many times I thought "Dizamn. My mom was right." after I moved out and started to learn life on my own. Self-taught lessons are important as well, but sometimes a tutor can help.

same here, i had an older brother that got away with everything, and i got the younger brother thing alot. i did move out at 18 tho and she wasnt asking me to leave, so that shocker her a little. she was sad to see me go, but also treated me as an adult afterwords..

Tell her you're gay. It will solve all your problems and you'll be allowed to have girls over until 1am.

yeah that'd go over really well with my hardcore catholic parents lol.

anyways tonight she was talking to me saying like "i haven't decided whether or not i'm going to tell them" and stuff like that just being a pain in the ass. so i told her to back off and stop trying to tell me how to live my lfe, she didn't get the message somehow.

anyways tonight she was talking to me saying like "i haven't decided whether or not i'm going to tell them" and stuff like that just being a pain in the ass. so i told her to back off and stop trying to tell me how to live my lfe, she didn't get the message somehow.

Sounds like she's more concerned with being a pain in the ass than helping you out. Does she have nothing better to do than worry about what friends you have over? As much questionable stuff my sister did I would NEVER break the No Snithcing rule, unless of course she was in some kind of danger etc.

Just ask her why it matters that much to her. You reacting with anger/yelling really won't help the situation much and she has nothing to lose by telling so you probably need to learn how to play her game and win.

i would take the "fuck you" approach. tell her that you will tell your parents for her, because it doesnt matter. you didnt do anything wrong!! what does she have to tell them! im sorry but i hate your sister.

I think this is a job for BIG MAMA

Well as much as you guys bitch aobut your big brothers/sister, at least you have them around. My sis has got 8 years on me, so she moved out when I was 10 to go to college. Since then it was like not even having a sibling. Yeah she can be a pain in the ass when she is around (still treats me like the baby) but generally its ok. I miss her though, I wish i could spend more time with her and talk to her more, but its just not that way. Oh well.

my sister's 2 years older than me. i'm being completely honest when i say i don't miss her.

she just tries to piss me of most of the time, she goes from being nice to a total bitch in the blink of an eye.

Give it time. Once you two are out of each others lives for a while, you'll miss her.

she's been in uni for 2 years.

i'm moving about 4,300 miles from her next year. and i doubt i'll feel any different.

she's been in uni for 2 years.

i'm moving about 4,300 miles from her next year. and i doubt i'll feel any different.

Haha ok, i concede the point.
But I still miss *my* big sis.

Me and my lil sis used to get on each others nerves to no end. Then I moved away to school and rarely came back to visit. Now I'm temporarily back and we get along great. I think part of it is that we're both adults now. She's 20 and I'm 23

But I still miss *my* big sis.

fair enough.

my sister's also the favourite (seriously) and she's grown to be like a spoiled brat. she's just a bitch in general. most of the time. she's nice sometimes, but they're few and far between.

^^^ Hahaha

Things get better as age progresses GENERALLY.