My life is now offically under 100% control, at 20.

Hmm.

I'm 20.

3rd year uni.

Can't do shit.

Can't stay up late
can't sleep in
cant go out
cant drink at home
cant have friends over
cant play playstation
cant play wow
cant listen to music
cant swear, no cursing.

My grandfather moved in a month ago. Since then it's got worse.

He's the old fasion type. He doesn't understand late nights.

I am not allowed to stay up past midnight, under ANY circumstance.
When I go out, I have to be home but 2am. Yes. 2am. I never listen to them.

I got a phone call at 2:05 am a few weeks ago from mum screaming at me where I was. I was fucking in the middle a pub in the middle of the city, an hour away!

I go over my mates most weekends to drink and play warcraft. I TOLD them I am staying the night, once again, phone call at 2am from mum screaming me to get home. Needless to say, I told her to go fuck her self, and turned my phone off. Boy did I cop it the next day.

I can't curse.

I can't say fuck shit cunt prick whore slut jerk prick sack dick cock, anything. To make it worse my own grandfather has THREATENED TO CALL THE COPS ON ME if I keep swearing. I don't even swear often, just when I'm pissed off on the spot or describing something.

It gets worse.

I have to be in bed by 12, and up by 8am.
I slept in till 12 today, and grandpa did all the gardening and mowed all the lawns. I set my alarm for 8, but by accident, 8PM, and no one bothered to wake me, when I did wake up I got screamed, yelled and spat at.

It gets worse.

I can't listen to music.

I can't listen to music through headphones because it "damages my hearing" because its "too close to your ear drums".

I can't drink. I am NOT allowed to consume alcohol, period. Not at home. Not at my mates, not at the fucking pub. I don't know why. I don't listen to her.

No more than 30 minutes on the computer at any given time.

Fuck them. I spend hours on it if I want.

I'm only allowed out once a month now, WHAT THE FUCK I live with nazi's.

I don't listen to them, I do what I want, and I get screamed at.

I'm sick of my house, and my nazi's mum and grandpa. I told her I fucking hated her for the way she's forcing to control every essence of my life, and she started screaming at me and telling me what a spoilt little fucking cunt I am.

Yes. She called me a spoilt little fucking cunt.

I can't curse, but she can, I can't drink, but she can fucking chain smoke her way to fucking lung cancer, and black teeth, and tar-filled fucking arteries fucking hypcrit thanks for reading needed to vent.

Dang......good luck.

Simple solution mate, move out.

There's absolutely no reason for your mum to try control you like that, the only thing you can do is up and leave.

You cant say "jerk"? You get spat at? Eff that shizz. Move out. I'm over here complaining about having to live back at my mom's house for a few months until I graduate, but now it seems not so bad. I'm glad she realized years ago that laying out super strict rules justs prompts me to break them

Ouch.

Sorry man but :owned: lol. Your best bet though like the others have mentioned is to just move out.

But in all seriousness. Take it like a man stay and talk to them and find out the deal, or run like a little sissy bitch not knowing why the deal.

But in all seriousness. Take it like a man stay and talk to them and find out the deal, or run like a little sissy bitch not knowing why the deal.

:iamwithst
Try sitting them down and calmly talking to them like an Adult. If that doesn't work, then consider moving out.

Sit down and talk to them, DONT start an argument.

Then regardless of the outcome, move out.

Sit down and talk to them, DONT start an argument.

Then regardless of the outcome, move out.
yup. They have no right to do what they are doing. If my mother was doing that, you can bet your ass I would be out of that house as soon as the next week rolled around.

lol I could understand if you were about 15 - 16 but 20 Damn man, I'm 20 and I can do pretty much what I like, although work does take up 9hrs a day, but other than that..........................

Yea... It doesn't seem like his mom or grandpa are the "sit down and talk like mature adults," type. My mom and dad are not anywhere close to that... like they are the exact oposite. As long as I don't do drugs and do well in school I can do whatever I want... except be a jerk... they hate that, A LOT.

But dude at 20 your mother CAN NOT! Treat you like that. It doesn't matter if you live under her roof. She has NO RIGHT! Tell her, nicely that you are fed up, can't stand and getting your own place, or crash with a buddy 'till you got the money. But you need to get the fuck outta there.

P.S. God speed.

I'm sure you would respect their "rules" (unreasonable demands) if you were treated appropriately - like a mature adult. Why not suggest to your mother and grandfather that you will treat them like adults and respect their wishes when the treatment is reciprocated, and you are treated like an adult and spoken to in a civilised manner. They are the ones behaving like children, and trying to control every aspect of your life, probably because they don't feel like they have much control over their own lives - your Mother's chain smoking is one symptom.

If it's feasable, however, as suggested above - move out.

^really, oz? no "pop their chocolate starfish" first? :p

Davo, that really is tough shit, i'm sorry to hear that. But everyone's right on the money, if you're really fed up with being controlled, the only way to get some freedom is to move out. won't be easy, however, as you'll be taking on many more responsibilities required of you for making it out there yourself.

as always, good luck man

Also, respect your mother you only have one. I went to a wake of someone I grew up around and she was a mother, and seeing the daughters made me realize what we have we are taking for granted they are around.

What a turd, you have no right to complain, move out yes, but not complain. You are 20 years old and still living with mommy. Get out, get a job, get a life, pay your own bills. You are an adult true, but you are living in a house someone else paid for, get your own house. You have no right drink, swear, have buddies, party, etc. in someone else's house. As long as you are living in a house someone else paid for you can't complain, no matter how ridiculous the rules. If you want adult rights, be an adult. Get a life and grow up. Pay your own bills then you can do what you want.










If and when you finally grow up, you will realize that there are reasons why you can't party, play and drink all the time. It's called life and the responsibility that goes with it, such as a job and paying for your own stuff.












Oh yeah, I'm not an old duffer either, I'm 25.

do what youve been doing. locking yourself in your room playing WOW (cause i thought thats what youve been doing) and jerking off.

works, no? :dunno:

but yeah, move out. find friends or perhaps you can handle it on your own. find a way out

cant move out LOL

no job :(

I'm sat down and talked to them about it, I'm allowed out till whenever tonight, but only because its a mates 21st. But because I'm going out thisweekend I'm not allowed out next weekend, I have to do uni work, which I do during the week so I can go out on the weekends I don't understand?

Still workin it out, its quite hilaroius though lol 20 can't do anything rofl!

i'm 20, and i had to move back with my parents. It's their house, their rules. I find them completely unfair, so i barely respect the rules, but they're there and i can't argue against them. I hear bullshit everytime i break them (my parents don't understand the equation "women + man + dangerous amounts of alcohol = not coming home"). I deal with it though, cuz i know i can't convince them to see things my way. If i want to play it out my way, I'll need to shape up, get a better paying job, and move back out, or transfer away.

:iamwithst
Try sitting them down and calmly talking to them like an Adult. If that doesn't work, then consider moving out.
If you don't try and confront them now, they will always try to control and manipulate you. If you get married, it will make your marriage hell. Confront them now, as respectfully as possible before moving out. If that doesn't work, then walk. Just don't walk right away, running from a problem only makes it worse.

My wife was controlled like that by her parents. It wasn't until last month that she confronted them but she was still scared to completely say what she thought and even wound up apologising for their manipulation. She's 28. Imagine, married, 28 and have your own kid with your parents still trying to manipulate through intimadation, threats guilt etc. If you don't talk to them now and just run, that will be your destiny.

As a reminder, be as respectful and tactful as possible.

Easier said than done, but move out.