guy problems...

so my boyfriend and i broke up when he went to college because he was too far away to still date. 9 months later we both still care about each other, want to do stuff together *kiss, and other such stuff ;) * but he says no way he doesn't want to get back together over the summer because it'd be too stressful when he leaves again. GRR! if we'd both be happier together then why is he not agreeing to date again? is it just a guy thing or am i missing something obvious here?

I don't think he wants to put you or him through anything that's gonna put an emotional strain on yall. Just enjoy your time together and stay in touch, you never know what the future holds. My cousin ended up marrying the guy she dated 9 years before. They broke up for college and other reasons. Did either of them see it coming to marriage later on? Not at all.

How far is the distance b/w yall?

I don't think he wants to put you or him through anything that's gonna put an emotional strain on yall. Just enjoy your time together and stay in touch, you never know what the future holds.

How far is the distance b/w yall?

:iagree:


whats the distance/colleges

Your still 17 and he has just been in college for a year. I would say he is moving on in pretty quickly and doesn't want to hurt you.

when he's home we're 20 minutes apart but i'm in madison and he's in ames ia, so it's around 6 hours apart :( it's just really hard tho because i've never felt like this about someone like i do about him. he and i are still really close even tho we've only seen each other 4 times in the last nine months and we talk every day. so i dunno...he never said he didn't want to try things next year. of coures that's too far away to say anything definite. i'm seeing him again tomorrow so we'll see how that goes. i agree with u all tho, he's trying to do what he thinks is the right thing so we both get hurt the least. can't blame him for trying...*sigh* i should just stop thinking about it, it's too depressing. *hugs* for all u nice people that replied

Well, you're 17 and probably not in college. He already went to college for a year... He's more than likely fucking some other girl, or he may actually be telling the truth. Either way I think you gotta move on. Don't worry you're young. :)

Well, you're 17 and probably not in college. He already went to college for a year... He's more than likely fucking some other girl, or he may actually be telling the truth. Either way I think you gotta move on. Don't worry you're young. :)

:iagree: sad, but true that's probably the case. Not to say he's a jerk, but he could be saying that b/c he doesn't want you to know that he's sleepin' around.

I have to agree. You need to move on. Hell, have some fun, enjoy life while you are young.

yeah, it sucks doesn't it? how long had you been dating and when did you break up?

we'd been dating for 9 months, broke up 8 months ago, but yeah like i said, every time he came home it was like we were still together, we acted like we were a couple. i've been trying to see other guys but last night i got pretty much sexually assaulted by one so i'd have to say i'm not having much luck with that. the other guy i tried to have come over got put in jail for the second night in a row attempting to come to my house. he's a really good guy tho, and i'm not being naive about it, the officer just kept harassing him and trying to push his buttons and it worked. but yeah, about the guy that held me down and kept trying to force me to do stuff...never talking to him again. some people just need to be castrated and that's that lol and also learn how to respect girls. no means no, not, please hold me down and do it again. anyone know any good guys 17-19 near madison wi that would wanna date me? lol

Move down here. Yeah it sucks. Just stay away from dood. Trust me, it'll hurt more if you don't. I know from experience. Just let it go and try not to remember it. And mvoe down here.

Yea you're still young, don't hold out and wait for him when he's being unfaithful (cuz a college boy who just entered his manhood away from his g/f - ex g/f - friend thing lol)IDK.....My g/f lives 8 hours away, i'm in MD and shes in NH, and were having problems too, so i'm happy to know i'm not the only sad one in this forum.........Just dont jump into another relationship right away, cuz you'll probly get more hurt by being taken advantage of cuz your vulnerable. I would hang out with your g/f's and go out with them as much as possible to gain better relationships(movies, mall, girl stuff) lol i have no clue what you do in madison?? I got a question though where is madison???

u said u kiss and stuff, so why would he buy the cow if he could get milk for free?

let an older guy chime in here. When I left the "hometown" for the big world of college, I met so many people, and experienced so many new things [music, attitudes, different teaching methods, self-sufficiency, rock concerts, parties, it goes on a mile] that my view on life and myself changed.

I didn't have a steady, per se, when I left, but was wise enough even at 18 to know that "absence does NOT make the heart grow fonder, absence makes the heart WANDER."

I'm a male, so it all comes from my male perspective. He is experiencing what you cannot, and is seeing more of the world than you probably are, sad but true.

Let it go, stop feeling sorry for yourself.

^ Very good explaination

Will you yourself be going to college? If so, it's a great opportunity.

yep, go to school yourself, if ya can, you will immediately see what i sayin' to ya.

yeah i'm hopefully going to go study business at Bradley university in peoria, IL. for the person that asked where madison is, it's the capital of WI located in the south central part like an hour slightly north west of milwaukee. yeah i dated one guy for like 3 days between when wes *the guy* and i broke up. he was younger than me and yes i've learned my lesson never to date a younger guy...ever again lol getting over him would have been easier except that i still currently don't have ANY friends that are girls...i had 5 or so but they all started hating me and spreading rumours and telling my personal secrets the same week or so that wes and i broke up. so much for best friends forever...they hated me because they were jealous of my body *flat stomach, 34D chest...* and cuz i slept wtih wes. doesn't matter we were in love and waited a long time and talked it over to death to make sure we wouldn't have anything go wrong and stuff...girls can be so nasty tho, especially to each other with the way they gossip and backstab. i myself am guilty of it but i have limits and class as well and wouldn't stoop to the level my so called friends did. i've tried meeting other girls and stuff but i'd get to know them better and find out they're definetely NOT the kind of people i want to associate with. I got a job at petsmart now and have met this really nice girl there tho so hopefully i can have a friend that's a girl *just feels weird calling her a girlfriend lol* i miss having a girl to bum tampons off of or talk about guys with or go shopping at victorias secret with because when u go with girls they don't stand around feeling awkward saying hrry up dammit just pick something i feel so weird standing in here, cuz with guy friends you all get jealous of each other and there's just some stuff, no matter how hard u try, u just don't understand. don't get me wrong, i love guys and ur awesome cuz u don't do some of the nasty stuff girls do. another thing that makes it so hard to get over wes and find someone else is that he's always been there for me no matter what, always cared about me, supported me, he kinda acts like my mom and watches out for me since my family told me they hate me and don't want me anymore. he's loved me more than anyone i've ever known and even tho we're not together he still cares about me more than anyone. yeah if u haven't already noticed i'm one of those people that will share there life story with like anyone, i'm fairly open lol hope ya don't mind such a long post! i've been trying hard to meet datable guys and stuff and so far it just hasn't been working out. with how many guys there are it's surprisingly hard to find one that i'd like to date. i don't have extremely high standards, i'd just like a fairly attractive guy that treats me well that's at an age where if i brought him home my parents wouldn't haul out the shotgun...eep sadly i work at a place where every guy there is gay, so no luck there either

LOL gay guys are so funny (did that come out wrong?? :eek7: ) there's this gay guy I work at LOEWS movie theater with and on his days off he always comes in to watch a movie with his "companion" and it's funny cuz when I worked for D.C. wireless his b/f worked right across from me at forever 21 :uhoh: anyways I hope you do find a guy that'll go sopping with you and will treat you right. Last time I was in N.H. with my "g/f" we went shopping at fashion bug and I got to try on all the pretty hats while she tried on every piece of clothing they had (everyone there thought I was gay.....fun times) lol anyways I know what it's like to have a long distance relationship and I applaude you for wanting to keep it going, i just think he's a ****** *** ****** * ******* **** ***** ** ******* for not wanting to do the same. As for girls, girls are stupid anyway (except for the non-stupid ones) they're cool, and you seem like a cool non-unstupid chick :bigthumb: Next time i'm in WI i'll take you shopping, but you gotta buy me lunch :grinno:

mmm lunch sounds delicious as long as we can go to victoria's secret too! lol i love that store, i don't know what i'd do without it. As for your "g/f" and trying on everything in the store, yeah, good luck finding a girl that isn't like that. i think guys just don't understand clothes. you have to get that exact perfect fit, it can't make u look fat, it has to fit ur boobs right, it can't be ugly, preferably trendy and somewhat affordable, matches with stuff you have, some other girl doesn't have the same thing, see lots of things go into shopping. for guys all u do is throw on w/e and it's all good. guys are guys cuz they just couldnt handle what it takes to be a girl ;) ooo hehe just that simple

Girls are stupid. Throw rocks at them.

:1: I'm hauling arse out of this thread after MBTN. Reminds me of Degrassi Junior High a bit too much.

mmm lunch sounds delicious as long as we can go to victoria's secret too! lol i love that store, i don't know what i'd do without it. As for your "g/f" and trying on everything in the store, yeah, good luck finding a girl that isn't like that. i think guys just don't understand clothes. you have to get that exact perfect fit, it can't make u look fat, it has to fit ur boobs right, it can't be ugly, preferably trendy and somewhat affordable, matches with stuff you have, some other girl doesn't have the same thing, see lots of things go into shopping. for guys all u do is throw on w/e and it's all good. guys are guys cuz they just couldnt handle what it takes to be a girl ;) ooo hehe just that simple


As for MBTN they have to be bricks (they hurt them stupid girls more~~~> :bricks1: ) As for clothes thats not true with all guyz, I never just throw on whatever...I always try to have a nice button down shirt, nice pair of jeans...or maybe if i'm going out somewhere nice i'll pull out the Evan-Picone Black pinstripe suit with the black silk shirt(100% silk mind you not that wal-mart silk) and white silk tie........you girls dont understand clothes like we do, your the ones that just throw stuff on(even the hottest girls will say "i feel fat so I just threw this on") and its just loose jeans and a scrubby shirt :screwy: so where do you wanna go to lunch at???? How bout Red Lobster?? They got some good shrimp scampi!!!!!!

This thread almost made me kick my cat...

:banhim: Abuse To Helpless Animals??? :banhim:

This is one of the lamest attempts to pick up a girl I've ever witnessed...

1. I'm lame
2. I'm not trying to pick up a girl (I'm not strong enough to lift them)
3. I'm very lame
4. What???
5. See points 1. and 3.

haha yeah ur right some girls just do throw on w/e, but i'm proud to say i'm not one of them! i still want panera bread or taco bell, i'm picky and don't like sea food. and how does this thread make u want to kick ur cat or have anything to do with animal abuse? i'm such a critter lover, i'll beat u up if u kick ur cat. u better believe it too, u know ur intimidated! besides u can't hit girls back because it's mean and it'd hurt lol yeah. so are we going to get food somewhere or are u taking me there like a date?

so are we going to get food somewhere or are u taking me there like a date?


Ahem, girls are not stupid. Don't throw rocks at them.

now let on go an a date.

i second that, ill let my pit loose on ya if u kick a cat!lol, and ya, mad people seem to be overweight lately, its disgusting!
p.s. have fun on ur hot t-bell date!!!!

do they get fat cuz they're mad or are they mad cuz they're fat? any other takers for a date with me? lol i'll share a little about myself, just the basic facts :) 17 straight long blonde hair, blue eyes 5'2'', 113 lbs, 34D prolly constitutes as fairly busty too, right? hmm eating is fun, just doing w/e, i really don't care what we do as long as it's fun. maybe we could all go together to summerfest in milwaukee! or the taste of chaos, the bands for summerfest this year suck in my opinion

hmmm....pm me your number ha ha haaa!

no don't you could be a guy posing as a girl.

look at my user name...what guy would pick out quteasabutten unless he was a total flamer. also, what guy posts abuot how much he loves shopping at victoria's secret and all "his" guy problems. i'm a girl, honest! what more proof do u want/need? and i might give u my number if some assfuck hadn't stolen my cell phone last week. rawr i'm still pissed about that cuz duh, phones are expensive and i talk on mine for several hours a day so needless to say, i'm just slightly devestated. i feel like i've lost a part of myself...lol totally jk on that last one my aim sn is the same as my user name on here if u wanted to say hi

proof? :useless:

look at my user name...what guy would pick out quteasabutten unless he was a total flamer. also, what guy posts abuot how much he loves shopping at victoria's secret and all "his" guy problems. i'm a girl, honest! what more proof do u want/need? and i might give u my number if some assfuck hadn't stolen my cell phone last week. rawr i'm still pissed about that cuz duh, phones are expensive and i talk on mine for several hours a day so needless to say, i'm just slightly devestated. i feel like i've lost a part of myself...lol totally jk on that last one my aim sn is the same as my user name on here if u wanted to say hi



You could be some kind of perv. I know I am

oh yeah, did i mention i've raped so many guys i've lost track of how many poor victims there's been? muhaha do u feel safe now?!

so have I

cant rape the willing ladies! :screwy: :naughty:

How about you role play. I'm the husband/sexy dancer/boyfriend/model/fireman/officer/doctor.

who says I am a lady

I do. A nice nice lady

what if she really isn't a lady, kinda like u accused me of. then you'd be wanting to roleplay with a dude. how does that make u feel?

kinda like calling a 1 800 number and talking to a 350lb chick!hahahaha
p.s. not speaking from experience!lol

haha suuure no experience there from you, totally gonna buy that one. lol we all now know what u spend ur friday and saturday nights doing...

oh yeah baby!they got my card on file, im a preferred customer!

lol oh really? who's ur favorite? and what kinda perks to preferred customers get? i just might have to sign up if it's enticing enough

1-800-jerk-off, u get a free minute for every hour u talk which comes to $59/hour.haha

haha cool my name is candy and if u lick me i get sticky lol yeah, that was mildly inappropriate...hehe all in good fun tho!

Yall aint right. Fyi, I am all woman,,,, I think, ya never know...Ok I am

ur uncertainty about whether ur are a man or woman kinda scares me...so which one is it? i'm proud to say i'm full girl but u seem embarrassed about it. not good! lol

I am just playin. I am all woman and a mother.

take me to the candyshop.haha, and karmacae, we now the kids are just a cover-up in ur sick crossdressing world of urs!j/k

we all over 100 different flavors of suckers at my candyshop, along with assorted chocolates, carmels and ice cream. mmm and for any of u that have been to minocqua in northern wisconsin, you have to go to the candystore there, they make everything themselves and it's sooo yummy

do they add they're special sauce?k thats enough, im gettin out of hand here, im gonna have to concentrate before i leave work with a stiffy.

omg I cant believe this shit. This is af not porn.....

haha u'd get hard just off thinking about my candyshop? should i feel special? lol and ur right, this isn't porn, cuz porn is pictures and i don't see any naughty pictures here

sorry, ill stop now, and no i really didnt get excited, im reallly bored at work and af has been kinda boring lately. trying to have some fun.

:sly:

I wouldn't kick my cat, however i would have kicked a puppy had it been in front of me at the time.

I'm pissed because my instructor gave me a C in my Multi Cylinder Engine Overhaul class, and gave a douche bag who didn't do anything a B, i worked my ass off and got a C!! I'm still pissed, i wrote him a nasty letter.

You dont need to be kicking poor little puppies....

grr, ok ive officially been driven crazy. GUT!! what's your s/n mean?! because i've tried like 4 times to decipher it and i can't and i didn't wanna say anythign at the risk of looking retarded if everyone else knew it already but dammit!!! just tell me!

sorry, ill stop now, and no i really didnt get excited, im reallly bored at work and af has been kinda boring lately. trying to have some fun.aren't we all?